What to expect when dating a sikh man


Posted by Brooklynwala in General , Musings on 01 8th, 87 responses. I think we as sikh guys surely have a hard time finding dates internationally but lot of it also due to how we feel inside. The moment someone is not interested or removes an opportunity, it is their loss and they are not deserving. What to expect when dating a sikh man [PUNIQRANDLINE-(au-dating-names.txt)

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It's a newish film with crossover appeal. As a Sikh woman, i would say No. I primarily look to date a good person — and we know good people come in all shapes and sizes. There are plenty of women including me who find sardars very attractive — i guess we should be more vocal about this! For both men and women, there is nothing more attractive than confidence in an individual.

I've always been surrounded by men who wear their turbans with confidence and pride and have never used it as an inhibition. However, i also understand that experiences with bullying and other forms of discrimination impact an individual's self-confidence, so i wish there was a way to address that in the community. Yes, wearing a turban and keeping your kesh is a huge barrier when it comes to dating within the Sikh community.

In other words, they probably don't view kesh and a pag as something that is desirable but it's not a deal-breaker and they are willing to "overlook" it. The percentage of Sikh women who actually prefer a sardar is negligible. I am sure that there will be many posts after mine what to expect when dating a sikh man that my assertion is false. But keep in mind that most people who read blogs like this are people who go out of their way to connect with other "religious" Sikhs.

They then think that their social circle reflects the larger reality, and they lose sight of what the majority of the Sikh community is really like. The fact is, the vast majority of Sikhs living in the west come from families where no men keep their hair expect maybe a grandfather.

When Sikh women from such a background see a sardar, they don't see him as one of their own. He is some strange, backwards "other. Yes, there are exceptions. You will occasionally meet a girl from a "clean shaven" family who is exceptionally open-minded and will be open to talking to a Singh. It's amusing how it will be brought up during a conversation out of the blue.

And the questions the girls usually ask make it seem like they are interviewing an alien from another planet. I'm not the dating guy season 1 to be critical of such girls, as it's not their fault they haven't been exposed to sardars, and it is commendable that they are being open-minded.

But it just goes to highlight how differently they view you. That is a big hurdle to get over if you are trying to establish some sort of relationship.

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So that leaves girls from "sardar families". No problem right? I always hear from people, "why are you considering girls from non-religious families? They just say "find a girl from a sardar family.


First of all, "sardar families" are far and few in between in America. Second, if you look around, you'll notice that it is very, very common to see a "sardar family" where the father and mother and sons keep their kesh, but the daughters have cut hair.

You see this all the time. Such a girl is going to attract attention from sardars and clean-shaven guys alike. She doesn't keep her own hair, so she doesn't feel restricted to looking for a guy who keeps his. And she's going to notice that every Singh living in the area will seem to have interest in her, since she's such a rarity a girl who, by virtue of the fact that her dad and brother keep their hair, might just be open to dating a Singh.

Consequently, she will likely form a less-than-favorable view of Singhs. Why would she want to give the time of day to the kinds of guys who seem desperate and are lining up for her? Anyway, what people often overlook in their criticism of sardars who consider girls with cut hair in their search is that there are a lot more guys in the west who keep their hair than there are girls. Where are all those guys supposed to look?

I grew up in Central India, but perhaps first time experienced the repulsion from women of all ages when living in Bombay, including at my work what to expect when dating a sikh man.

I should say that after my colleagues came to know me their behavior changed dramatically. So I believe women who have not come across Sikh men do feel intimidated by the mere appearance of Sikhs. However things may be changing in India as several young men all Keshdhari of my extended family have married to Non-Sikh girls. On the other red deer women seeking men one comes across several young Sikh women, whose father and brothers are Keshdhari, opting for clean-shaven match.

Having been brought up in a western culture, my parents have taught me well about my culture and I'm proud of who I am. Having read everyone's comments it comes across girls are only being blamed for not considering men that wears pugs when it comes to dating or marriage. I beg to differ. I belong to a Sikh family and no men in my family wears Pugh or has dhari. When dating I never differentiated, as it was more important to me that I find a partner who is honest what to expect when dating a sikh man genuine.

Everytime I got introduced to a guy with a turban, he always felt the need to confirm if I was aware he's not clean shaven- to me that's already him feeling inferior even though I had no issues.

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Whilst engaged to a guy from a Pugh family I was constantly looked down, reminded of that I didn't come from one, to a point that I was asked to get the men in my family to keep kesh. This was just so that they can show off in the society that they got a girl from a similar background and to more so to keep them happy. Eventually the wedding got called off due to the differences.


Not all the girls are the same- we shouldn't go around painting them with the same brush. If we can accept you regardless of what image you have, we should also equally be accepted regardless of which family we come from.

It's an interesting one. In most cases the first time people outside the community meet a sardar some freak out but as you get to know them the perception changes, they are wonderful people and its our job as individuals to make it so.

Somewhere along the line, the perception of turbaned sikhs with beards in the community has what to expect when dating a sikh man made where people think Singhs are xyz which we know is not necessarily true but based on ones interaction with sikhs before may have influenced their thoughts. When I was in high school there was a lot of talks about SP, fundamental Singhs etc where a lot of people did think that turbaned sikhs with beards are hardcore religious people, which for a lot of people in that age group was a negative.

Now this same generation has grown up and looking to get married but many still hold on to this experience which makes them think sardars may be hardcore and very religious. Do girls feel they have to be a certain way if they hook up with a Singh? Obviously not all but many do even though they won't admit this. When it comes to the question of trim Singhs, some girls feel that these guys are more modern, chilled, not so religious and feel they can be themselves and hence opt for this option.

Outside the community it is common to be clean shaven, its portrayed as the "IN" thingjust look at commercials and the shows that come on etc. The time we are in at the moment is so much about "Looking good" or projecting this image.

In mainstream media, turbans and beards are not the "IN" thing it will be one day again like it once was when the Khalsa came about, but not yet. We do look good, but its early and at the moment we look different, its un-familiar so its uncertain.

Think about the association game, what does a turban or even a bearded man mean to people generally, its not mainstream and hence very early. We shouldn't be upset and should not think that the fate of the community depends all on one guy who came on a Big black people meet dating show.

There is always a benefit in what to expect when dating a sikh man that is seen as a negative and a drawback in something that is seen as positive. If not we need more exposure in many different ways so that the turban and beard becomes familiar and eventually trusted. But for this to happen it has come into the public eye. However, a big part of this also depends on the individual and his own self image.

Most people bring forth their own insecurities and feel more for themselves then the other person. Something inside makes them think that they will be the ones that will get picked on or be seen in a different way. But it has to be realised that what you think about you bring about and what you think and feel is what you manifest in your reality.

People have preferences, but whats more powerful is if people can see how these were formed in the first place. Once they understand this then what they see will be seen in a totally different light. Its up to turbaned and bearded sikhs to make sure they can integrate, be a part of the community, and been seen for who they are and not what they look like. But all this will come with time, education and exposure to the mainstream.

In once sense its is a trend, its just not in at the moment.


When this false perception is broken it will open up a lot of doors, but until then we have to solider on and contribute and make way for what's yet to come and be part of the process like many others before us. If your boyfriend is a sardar, you can annoy him or tease him with sardar jokes.

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Adorn the head or face of the bride or groom in decorative paper, tinsel, or actual flowers, or gilded ornaments, or piercings, or tie the wrists with red bands. Engage in matrimonial related ancestor worship. Take part in rituals such as bathing the feet with milk, or filling and breaking pitchers, cutting berry or Jandi bushes.

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